In our competitive world, where achievement is prized as that which gives the ‘edge’ or advantage over another person – our opponent, comparisons are necessary. We play along in this game by constantly comparing ourselves with other people. We invariably don’t quite make the grade, because we will always find people who are ‘better’ than we are.
Comparing ourselves with others is therefore one of the surest ways to conclude that we are wanting, thereby reinforcing our poor sense of worth. No matter how good we are at something in particular, there will always be someone, somewhere who is ‘better’ than us, and no matter how awful we consider ourselves to be in any area, there will always be someone who is ‘worse’ than us. It therefore makes no sense to compare ourselves to anyone else. What we should be doing is recognising our unique individuality and that we are the particular way we are for a very good reason (and incidentally, that which we are is as good as we can be at the present time – we are Good Enough).
This is not to say that we should be complacent, or that we should give ourselves an excuse to be lazy. We can always consider the way we used to be, and this will show us the extent to which we have grown and changed. If we find ourselves unable to resist the temptation to compare, we could attempt to confine ourselves to PBs or Personal Bests by looking at our achievements in the light of the way we used to be.
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