Think before you speak!

My beloved husband taught me 20 years ago that once something is said it cannot be taken back: I have tried to be more moderate.  This is the next stage for me!  Thank you for this Mr Samuel … I know that sometimes I am guilty as charged!

Before you speak, consider the relevance of anything you feel needs to be said

David Samuel

David’s Website

Self Esteem

There is one quality above all others that determines how individuals respond to the circumstances in their lives, and that quality is self-esteem.  Self esteem is how a person feels about him – or herself – whether they think they are OK as people, and the extent to which they feel they deserve the good things in life.  Dorothy Corkille-Briggs (1975) describes self-esteem very accurately:

 “High self-esteem is not a noisy conceit. It is a quiet sense of self-respect, a feeling of self worth.  When you have it deep inside, you’re glad you’re you. Conceit is but a whitewash to cover low self-esteem.  With high self-esteem, you don’t waste time and energy in impressing others.  You already know you have value … feelings of self worth from the core of (the) personality can determine the use (made) of…. aptitudes and abilities.  In fact, self-esteem is the mainspring that marks every (person) for success or failure as a human being”.

It is extremely difficult to function effectively with a low level of personal worth or esteem.  It affects how we see ourselves in relation to others, and therefore how we operate as a husband or wife, employer or employee, parent, friend, or in any other role we fulfil on a daily basis.  Our basic self-esteem is usually established in childhood, and often remains that way, simply because we tend to place ourselves in situations that reinforce the way we see ourselves.  Changing our level of self-esteem requires that we take certain actions that may be different to the way we normally behave.

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Wise words from A E Houseman, “A Shropshire Lad”: cherry

We have just come back from a trip to the South West of France.  Stopping at a picnic area I was delighted to see daisies SO thickly carpeted, more than I have ever seen.  A little French girl going to the next table said “It is like snow”.  Her comment reminded me of this:-

 Houseman cleverly marks not only the Springs, but our passage of time through them …

Loveliest of trees, the cherry now
Is hung with bloom along the bough,
And stands about the woodland ride
Wearing white for Eastertide.
Now, of my threescore years and ten,
Twenty will not come again,
And take from seventy springs a score,
It only leaves me fifty more.
And since to look at things in bloom
Fifty springs are little room,
About the woodlands I will go
To see the cherry hung with snow.
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A.E.Houseman “A Shropshire Lad”
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About death: “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran

My much-loved uncle died the night before last. He was old and ill, but I shall miss him very much. His passing marks the end of an era!

I am posting, for today, something I find helpful at times like this …

From “The Prophet” by Kahlil Gibran

Then Almitra spoke, saying, We would ask now of Death.  And he said:

You would know the secret of death.
But how shall you find it unless you seek it in the heart of life?
The owl whose night-bound eyes are blind unto the day cannot unveil the mystery of light.
If you would indeed behold the spirit of death, open your heart wide unto the body of life.
For life and death are one, even as the river and the sea are one.

In the depth of your hopes and desires lies your silent knowledge of the beyond;
And like seeds dreaming beneath the snow your heart dreams of spring.
Trust the dreams for in them is hidden the gate to eternity.
Your fear of death is but the trembling of the shepherd when he stands before the king whose hand is to be laid upon him in honour.
Is the shepherd not joyful beneath his trembling that he shall wear the mark of the king?
Yet is he not more mindful of his trembling?

For what is it to die but to stand naked in the wind and to melt in the sun?
And what is it to cease breathing but to free the breath from its restless tides that it may rise and expand and seek God unencumbered?

Only when you drink from the river of silence shall you indeed sing.
And when you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb.
And when the earth shall claim your limbs, then shall you truly dance.

Khalil Gibran

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Is the problem in the stars? What Shakespeare says …

Is the problem in the stars? What Shakespeare says is below.

“The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars but within ourselves ….”

William Shakespeare (Julius Caesar Act 1 Scene 1)

Julius Caesar

When I was looking for pictures of Julius Caesar and Brutus I came across this photograph of the young (now late) James Mason in the role of Brutus.  No wonder my mother’s generation of females was in love with him … He is so handsome …

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Live your life as if you were the boatman of an empty boat

Live your life as if you were the boatman of an empty boat

The Taoist sage Chuang-Tzu is a Chinese writer from the 4th Century BCE (Before the Christian Era). He shows us a way of looking at our lives and gives us one of the earliest Cognitive Therapy lessons into the bargain! See what you make of him.

If a man is crossing a river
And an empty boat collides with his own skiff
Even though he be a bad tempered man
He will not become very angry.
But if he sees a man in the boat,
He will shout at him to steer clear.
If his shout is not heard, he will shout again.
And yet again, and begin cursing.
And all because there is someone in the boat.
Yet if the boat were empty,
He would not be shouting and angry.
If you can empty your own boat
Crossing the river of the world,
No one will oppose you,
No one will seek to harm you.

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