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A reality of life is that no matter how appropriate and assertive our need-filling behaviour, occasions will arise when our needs or the needs of others are thwarted. These are challenging situations, and the strategies we need to adopt to solve them can require our best creative efforts. Others will not always share our sense of fairness and our open-mindedness. We may need to resolve our differences with people whose patterns of behaviour are less flexible than our own.
It is these situations that both challenge us, and teach us the most, and are also a measure of our progress towards an inner state of peace. In the words of Martin Luther King: ‘The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy’
Behaviour is usually considered acceptable or unacceptable by others depending on whether or not it interferes with their needs. This is true when a specific behaviour interferes with the needs of an individual or of a small or a large group. Most socially vetted behaviour stems from this root. Laws are determined by this principle, as is custom and etiquette.
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