Affirmations …

Affirmations … One more thing that must be mentioned here is the power and use of verbal instructions: affirmations. 


Psychotherapists call the use of words in this way ‘ego strengthening’.  Others speak simply of affirmations.   Louise Hay has written whole books on the subject of changing our perceptions of ourselves by changing the way we think about ourselves, and she suggests the use of visualisation together with affirmations, because the one strengthens the other. So what exactly is an affirmation?  Stuart Wilde (1987, p16) proposes the following definition:

 “An affirmation is, in effect, a statement either of word, thought, feeling, or action that underlines or confirms a belief pattern that you hold. There are negative or positive affirmations.”

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Did looking at a picture of yourself ‘take you back’?

Did looking at a picture of yourself ‘take you back’ to that time?

Another powerful technique that Louise Hay recommends is to use a photograph of yourself as a child to try to re-connect with the part of you captured frozen in time in the picture.  The exercise below describes how to do this.  Ten to twenty minutes should help you get a long way …

Altered Awareness

You can reach your inner child is by altering your awareness – accessing the memory as it is stored.  This is a powerful and direct method, and in most cases is a journey we are advised to take only with the aid and support of someone professionally trained.

To explain why we say this, let us use an analogy that can be easily understood.  We can compare our minds/brains to a very complex computer system.  To run our computer selves properly, we employ a computer operator who is also a very skilled programmer.  Over time this individual has worked out the programme that we know as ourselves – the personality we show to the world and the way we feel inside.  Our programmer has been with us for a long time, and together we have figured out how this system works.

1. Find a photograph of yourself as a child.

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 2. Look carefully at the photograph, and try to connect with what you see.  If you have several photos of yourself as a child, better still.  Try to connect with the part of you that was frozen in time in each photo.

3. Another very powerful way to do a similar thing is to seat yourself in front of a mirror, and look deeply into your own eyes, and find the child hidden in there.

4. Talk to yourself while you do this.  Talking to your child, perhaps using something other than your present name, like a childhood nickname helps to initiate communication.  Speak to your inner child as if it were a real child. It helps if you had a nickname as a child.

5. Note what it feels like when you use a name like this.  For many of us there is some slight gut reaction, because a child nick-name is something that we “grew out of” and its use may well take us a little distance back to where we once were.  This is good, because it means that we are a little closer to communicating with our inner child.

6. Whether or not there was a nick-name, begin talking to your inner child as if he or she is a physical child.  Ask what the child would like to do, or what the child feels about any situation.  A particularly nurturing thing to do is to take some time – say a weekend, or a day, or even a few hours when external demands can be ignored, or at least minimised, and prepare your house as if a child was coming.  Take your child to the supermarket, and ask what type of food they would like in preparation for your ‘special time’ together.  Or plan an outing – something the child would really like.

7.Again ask the child what they would like to do – and as the loving parent of the child, do all you can to make it possible.  It may be something you’ve always wanted to do as a child, but were never allowed or able to do.  Give   yourself the treat.

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Louise Hay’s Drawing with your Inner Child

Louise Hay’s drawing with your Inner Child: my old (now late) teacher Peter Blythe would have called her method ‘drawing with your Unconscious Mind! Writing or drawing is one way of connecting with your inner child. Louise Hay (1991) recommends using your non-dominant hand to draw a picture.  This exercise provides you with an opportunity.  Five or ten minutes is enough to make a start!

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The inner child is very much associated with creativity, and has been related to the activity of the right half of the brain. It makes sense therefore to think that by accessing what is popularly called ‘the right brain’; we are coming closer to communicating with our inner child.  Louise Hay recommends using your non-dominant hand to draw a picture.

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If you allow yourself to do everything with your non-dominant hand, including the choice of colours, and just relax into the process, amazing insights can be achieved. Even more so if you can suspend judgement about the quality of the picture that emerges, remembering that it is a young child doing the drawing.

  1. Sit with your unlined paper pad on your knee in front of you. 
  2. Hold your pen or pencil in your non-dominant hand.
  3. Choose colours also with your non-dominant hand.
  4. Relax.
  5. Ask your inner child to draw a picture about a certain event in your life, and just allow it to happen.  You could ask your child to draw a picture of you, or to represent your life path – the things that happened to you, or a picture of your family, or the significant people in your life.
  6. Without looking at your paper, let your writing implement draw. 
  7. How are you doing? Amazing insights can be achieved.
  8. So much the better if you can suspend judgement about the quality of the drawing, remembering that it the young child from inside you doing the drawing.

If a physical child presented you with the drawing that you see emerging from beneath your hand, you would accept it without judgement. You would appreciate the skill of the child, given its age, and may even experience a sense of love in your heart.


If you can have this sense of love for your inner child in your heart, the process of opening to yourself will proceed in leaps and bounds.  It may feel strange, or even a bit silly, especially at first, so you will probably want to be quite private when you do this. (In reaching for your inner child, don’t alienate your parent or adult – they are part of you too!) Notice if you feel any differently, or whether the way you feel is perhaps coming from a slightly different place within you.

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Are you rather restrained? Learn to be playful again!

Are you rather restrained? Learn to be playful again!

I’ve mentioned Louise Hay before in a previous blog.  One of Louise Hay’s statements that I use as an antidote to my own negativity is “I choose to make my life light and easy and joyful  If you can learn to live life this was it is easier!  Now I am writing this blog some time after the original ‘Peace of Mind’ manuscript I can testify  that ‘easier’ has become EASY AND JOYFUL!! Yippee!!!

Louise Hay’s web-links are below: Your Body Is Asking for Help by Louise Hay – HealYourLife and

Louise L. Hay – Internationally renowned author and Hay ...

 Play is a powerful means of communicating with children, and we can apply it to the inner part of ourselves, our child part that lives inside us all as well.  How about a project in an expressive medium? : –

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 An Art based one on paper:

  • Drawing
  • Painting
  • Charcoal
  • felt-tips
  • pastels

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Something which may take a little longer such as:

  • sewing
  • three dimensional collage work
  • clay work at a pottery class


How about selecting an ongoing project?  Spontaneous things can be very helpful:

  • sand play (this does amazing things for children)
  • digging in the dirt
  • gardening and is also very therapeutic, as any gardener will tell you


Remember, the more structured and goal oriented the activity, the less the child part of you will be able to express itself spontaneously.  A short dig in a heap of soil or sand would also be most acceptable.

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Felling better – again

Love yourself:

This will help you feel better!  Strange as this may seem, it is asking rather a lot to expect another person to love us if we don’t consider ourselves good enough for our own love.  Or perhaps we find it difficult to love ourselves because that would be conceit.  If we look back to where our resistance to this idea originates, we will come to understand a great deal about the way we approach life.  Louise Hay (1991) identifies some of the ways in which we sabotage ourselves by acting or thinking negatively.


Self-criticism: It is an almost universal tendency to criticise and berate ourselves for not being as good as we feel we should be at a particular thing or activity.  In fact ‘should’ is one of the most common words we apply to ourselves.  We ‘should’ be better parents, better employees, and better people in general.   Referring back to exercise 7, if we were asked to think of a list of things we were bad at, the chances are we would think of a lot pretty quickly!

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