There’s something to be said about the use of labels as judgement It seems logical that “negative” labels are “bad” and “positive” labels are ‘good’. In reality this is not the case, for the simple reason that generally, labels refer to individuals. Therefore, when we say someone is ‘good’, or ‘clever’ or ‘pretty’, it is as much a judgement based on arbitrary external criteria as a ‘negative’ label. As you’ve seen in thoughts from this blog already, ‘negative’ labels originate from the feelings of the speaker. Similarly ‘positive’ labels come from external systems of evaluation such as general attitudes of society – good children are quiet and respectful to adults, or from the projected needs of the speaker.
The Sunday Express at talks about her childhood with many negative labels. Poor Victoria!
The future monarch, probably under the command of her German governess, Baroness Lehzen, reveals among the many “goods” and “very goods” in the week of November 3, 1831 that she had also been “very thoughtless and foolish” and “impertinent”. This is judgement indeed, and from herself!
The following year, on Monday, September 25, at the age of 13, she describes herself as “very very very very horribly naughty!!!!!” although there is no hint as to what Victoria might have done.
Details of her progress were kept throughout her childhood, which was spent under what was known as the “Kensington System”.
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