Aggressive Behaviour Patterns:
It is an interesting paradox that the underlying motivators of aggressive behaviour are the same as that of submissive behaviour. Somewhere along the line habitually aggressive individuals have just learned different responses to similar feelings. Aggressive people feel as threatened and worthless as submissive people. The only difference is that they have not lost their natural ability to fight to assert their supremacy. Using the model we presented earlier, we can surmise that their aggression stems from a need to survive, and in their view of the world, the ‘want’ is for domination. Aggression is a learned strategy for achieving this. The aggressive attitude and behaviour continues no matter how often it is successful and the want is fulfilled. This is precisely because it is a want, or displaced need and not a true need in the sense of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.
The body language and attitude of habitually aggressive people suggests domination, and includes features such as arrogance, sarcasm, a strutting posture and a challenging glare. They often point fingers, make fists, or display physical aggression.
On the plus side, habitually aggressive people often get what they want by virtue of ‘shouting the loudest’, and can find it easy to achieve success and the accumulation of material possessions. Sadly this is often achieved at the expense of others. On the down side, the empires they build tend to be brittle, and collapse easily. They struggle to fulfil emotional or relationship needs, and the need for esteem from both self and others remains elusively out of range. Habitually aggressive people build themselves into ivory towers by unconsciously repeating the behaviour that builds the isolating walls higher and higher.
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