We often spend much of our lives reacting to how other people are. This can be crystallised down to the argument between being PROACTIVE versus REACTIVE. We can spend our time waiting around (reactive) when really we wanted to go off and do our own thing (proactive) I want to encourage you to be proactive and stop reacting to others!
The writer below shows us beautifully a way of looking at our lives and gives us one of the earliest Cognitive Therapy lessons into the bargain! See what you make of him. He really underlines the difference between being proactive and reactive …
If a man is crossing a river
And an empty boat collides with his own skiff
Even though he be a bad tempered man
He will not become very angry. But if he sees a man in the boat,
He will shout at him to steer clear.
If his shout is not heard, he will shout again.
And yet again, and begin cursing.
And all because there is someone in the boat.
Yet if the boat were empty,
He would not be shouting and angry.
If you can empty your own boat
Crossing the river of the world,
No one will oppose you,
No one will seek to harm you.
The writer is the Taoist sage Chuang-Tzu is a Chinese writer from the 4th Century BCE (Before the Christian Era). I hope that it underlines for you the constant debate – do we do what WE want (be proactive) or go around reacting to other people (reactive).
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