There is one quality above all others that determines how individuals respond to the circumstances in their lives, and that quality is self-esteem. Self esteem is how a person feels about him – or herself – whether they think they are OK as people, and the extent to which they feel they deserve the good things in life. Dorothy Corkille-Briggs (1975) describes self-esteem very accurately:
“High self-esteem is not a noisy conceit. It is a quiet sense of self-respect, a feeling of self worth. When you have it deep inside, you’re glad you’re you. Conceit is but a whitewash to cover low self-esteem. With high self-esteem, you don’t waste time and energy in impressing others. You already know you have value … feelings of self worth from the core of (the) personality can determine the use (made) of…. aptitudes and abilities. In fact, self-esteem is the mainspring that marks every (person) for success or failure as a human being”.
It is extremely difficult to function effectively with a low level of personal worth or esteem. It affects how we see ourselves in relation to others, and therefore how we operate as a husband or wife, employer or employee, parent, friend, or in any other role we fulfil on a daily basis. Our basic self-esteem is usually established in childhood, and often remains that way, simply because we tend to place ourselves in situations that reinforce the way we see ourselves. Changing our level of self-esteem requires that we take certain actions that may be different to the way we normally behave.
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